I have always tried to be honest about what I experienced in my growing up years by people who were supposed to be safe, not to mention the countless transgressions by men in power, men who wanted power, and women who fed that patriarchal need for power all through my life. The ways of silencing and shaming that constantly tell you you can't speak out, if you do speak out and mess with the status quo, rock the boat there is hell to pay. We teach kids to tell adults when something happens and then we promptly teach them by our actions that we don't care or believe them - ACTIONS MATTER! If a child is brave and tells you something and you do nothing or worse have holidays with the person that violated them. You showed them you don't believe them. And for your own comfort feed that cycle abuse.